For a man, pregnancy is just as exciting a period of life as it is for a woman. At this time, many different thoughts arise, and sometimes they can cause anxiety. Because it’s not as common for dads to express these anxious thoughts, let’s take a look at some common questions.
Will my partner love our new baby more than me?
Expecting is really a test for relationships. After learning that their partner is pregnant, it is common for partners to worry about the future of the relationship. These feelings are normal. Feeling rejected or jealous of your baby is also normal. It is important not to hide emotions and honestly tell your partners about your feelings.
Some couples find it helpful to schedule date nights or couple-time after the baby is born to ensure there is enough time to tend to your relationship. However, it is important to understand that the new baby is a member of a growing family. And if, after the birth, you take initiative to care for the new baby on an equal basis with your partner, then, most likely, you will cease to perceive the baby as the one who separates you from your loved one [1].
Can we still have sex?
In the absence of any complications, sex can be practiced throughout pregnancy, even into the third trimester. You will not harm the baby, who is protected from external influences by amniotic fluid and uterine muscles. For many mothers-to-be, sex helps her relax and relieve tension. In later stages, sex can cause the muscles of the uterus to contract. These are training contractions which do not lead to childbirth [2].
However, your partner may not have a desire for sex during pregnancy. This must be accepted. A pregnant woman experiences a serious hormonal load, causing tremendous emotional and physical reactions. Instead of pressuring her for sex, find ways you can support her — hugs, kisses and foot massages [3].
How will pregnancy affect my partner’s emotions?
From complete apathy to euphoria, the emotional state of a woman during pregnancy is truly a roller coaster. And it’s no wonder, her body is getting powerful doses of hormones. Plus, there’s the discomfort of the physical changes: cramps, itching from stretch marks on the belly, back pain, swelling of the legs. Pregnancy is an emotional time for many reasons, for both partners. The best way to handle it is to talk about your feelings and support each other [4].
Will we no longer be able to eat at restaurants, watch movies or play sports?
Many pregnant couples maintain a highly active lifestyle. With the exception of extreme sports like boxing, football and scuba diving, sports are not harmful to expectant mothers [5, 6]. On the contrary, physical activity is great! It keeps mama healthy and active, which helps her prepare for childbirth [5]. Later in pregnancy, however, your partner may tire faster and should not over-exercise [5].
And, before the birth of your child is a great time to go on dates. It is important to be flexible as your partner may grow less interested in going out. Due to the side effects of pregnancy, such as frequent urge to pee or heartburn, she may prefer cozy and relaxed evenings at home [6].
