Decide in advance who you will tell about the pregnancy
Suddenly, it may turn out that you and your partner have completely different ideas about which of your family and friends should know about the pregnancy and at how many weeks.
One partner may justifiably get upset if the other one shares the news about the pregnancy with friends or family without previously agreeing on the details.
Each couple is entitled to decide who to share the news about their pregnancy with and when to do so. The key to avoiding conflict around this issue is to agree on the rules in advance. A future mom may want to tell her parents she’s pregnant as soon as she finds out. Or maybe she feels an overwhelming need to talk to her sister or best friend about it. Even if you disagree with her timing, try to be understanding. Sharing such momentous news can help her feel less anxious [1].
Remember to talk about your feelings honestly and as openly as possible when trying to reach an agreement. You shouldn’t impose your thoughts but you shouldn’t hold back either. Developing the ability to talk about controversial issues directly will only strengthen your trust in each other, helping build your compromising skills well before the baby is even born.
Sacks A., Birndorf C. What No One Tells You. A Guide to Your Emotions from Pregnancy to Motherhood. Simon & Schuster, 2019.
