Three steps to help your baby cope with the emotions.
The good news is that it's normal for your baby to cry when you leave. It means they now have a strong attachment to you [1]. It also means that their psyche is developing by age-appropriate norms [2].
That is all fine and good, but it’s not easy to see your baby in despair when you go out. Here are a few things you can try.
Fake a separation
Once in a while, leave your baby alone in a safe place and go to another room. Come back after half a minute to a minute. This way the baby quickly learns that even though mom sometimes is not around, she always comes back. You can turn these training sessions into a game by going to another room, and returning with a joyful "Here I am!". Toddlers usually love this type of game.
Make up a parting ritual
For example, sing the baby a song, hug them, blow a kiss, and always stick to your chosen routine.
Why is it necessary? Children don't like the unexpected. If life is predictable, they tend to be calmer. Always follow your special ritual, even if the baby is crying. There is no need to stay longer and try to soothe them. Carry on with your routine, give the baby to the person taking care of them in your absence, and leave. It can be hard, but there is no reason to feel guilty. The baby will most likely calm down in no time.
Never leave quietly
It may seem easy to sneak out and try to avoid upsetting the baby. But in the long run, these situations can increase a child's anxiety. Look at things through their eyes; if mom can disappear at any moment, you can never relax! It’s better to always say goodbye, even if they throw a tantrum. Be consistent, and everything will gradually get better.
