We all know babies would prefer never to part with their mothers [1, 2]. But sometimes life demands it. Here are step-by-step instructions for leaving your baby with a babysitter.
Normally, babies are not afraid of being alone. They can easily stay with other significant adults (like dad, grandma, or a nanny) while mom runs errands or takes a shower.
To avoid unnecessary stress, try using this separation ritual:
Pat or Kiss Your Baby: Give them a gentle pat or kiss.
Say Goodbye: Tell your baby, "Bye, (baby’s name), I'm leaving for 20 minutes, I'll be back soon." Your voice should be calm and affectionate. Intonation is even more important than the words themselves. You can also give your baby a plush toy or pacifier as a symbolic substitute.
Leave the Room: Get up and leave the room.
Listen: After closing the door, listen. They may grunt at first. Do not go back into the room; your baby can calm themselves.
Comfort if Needed: If your baby starts crying, return and comfort them. Say in an even and warm voice, "I am back. I am with you again." Then repeat steps 1-4 if necessary.
Leave Smoothly: If everything goes smoothly, leave. When you return, be sure to kiss them and say, "Hello, it's been 20 minutes, I'm back." Even if they are asleep. While your baby may not understand what 20 minutes is, maintaining their expectations and mentioning the time helps create a sense of a safe and predictable environment.
Be Patient: The first few times, you may need to come back and comfort your child several times. This is very important. Each visit teaches your baby that they are safe. Once they master this, they will feel more comfortable [3].
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